How to Reach Out

Warning Signs

⚠️ Crisis Signs — Act Now

Talking about wanting to die or kill themselves
Looking for ways to access lethal means (firearms, medications)
Talking about being a burden to others
Giving away prized possessions unexpectedly
Saying goodbye as if they won't see you again
Sudden calmness after a period of depression
Expressing feelings of having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped, hopeless, or in unbearable pain

If you see these signs: call 988 (Press 1) or take to an emergency room immediately.

👁️ Needs Attention — Reach Out

Withdrawal from friends, family, and activities they used to enjoy
Increased alcohol or substance use
Changes in sleep — too much or too little
Expressing hopelessness about the future
Reckless behavior or increased risk-taking
Extreme mood swings or rage
Talking about feeling like a failure or worthless
Loss of interest in work, relationships, or purpose

If you see these signs: reach out, ask directly, and listen without judgment.

How to Have the Conversation

Reach Out — Just Do ItDon't wait for the "right moment." Pick up the phone, knock on the door, send a text. The fact that you're reaching out matters more than what you say. "Hey, I've been thinking about you" is enough to start.

Ask Directly About SuicideResearch shows asking directly does not plant the idea — it opens the door. Ask: "Are you thinking about suicide?" Be direct. Be calm.

Listen Without JudgmentLet them talk. Don't rush to fix it or minimize their pain. Instead: "I hear you. Thank you for telling me. I'm here."

Remove Access to Lethal MeansGently ask about temporarily securing firearms and medications. "Would you be willing to store your firearms somewhere else for now?" This single step can prevent suicide. See firearm safety guide →

Connect to HelpOffer to make the call together. Call 988 Press 1. Connect to the VORP Warmline: (855) 947-2338. Or use our Resource Directory →

📞 You Are Not Alone Either

Supporting someone in crisis is emotionally demanding. The VORP Warmline (855) 947-2338 supports Veterans and their families. Be There Wisconsin also provides support for helpers.

Training Resources

These evidence-based programs train community members, families, and professionals to recognize and respond to suicidal crisis. Many are free or low-cost in Wisconsin.

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QPR Training

Question, Persuade, Refer — 1–2 hour evidence-based gatekeeper training. Available online and in-person throughout Wisconsin.

qprinstitute.com →

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ASIST

Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training — intensive 2-day program for in-depth crisis intervention skills.

livingworks.net →

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Be There Wisconsin

Free online suicide prevention training for Wisconsin community members.

betherewis.com →

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VA S.A.V.E.

Signs, Ask, Validate, Encourage — VA gatekeeper training designed for Veteran communities.

va.gov →

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Prevent Suicide WI

Wisconsin-specific resources, trainings, and community events focused on prevention statewide.

preventsuicidewi.org →

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County VSO Finder

Every Wisconsin county has a free Veterans Service Officer — a local expert who can connect Veterans to services and crisis support.

Find your county VSO →

Find Wisconsin Resources → Firearm Safety Guide

⚠️ Crisis Signs — Act Now

👁️ Needs Attention — Reach Out

How to Have the Conversation

If You're in Crisis Right Now